Monday, April 19, 2010

A Blessed Wife

It is within the tough times, the stressful moments, and the walks through the valleys which test our marriages. We are either pulled away because the clouds of the storms distort our view of one another, or we are knitted together because we have a strong foundation in Christ. There have been several seasons in my marriage where the thickness of the clouds caused me to lose my way a bit. The scope of my vision became paled and I lost sight of the truth. However, I am very grateful that God always parts the clouds and helps me to see once again the reality of all my blessings. I daily need my Savior!
My greatest blessing on this earth is not my children, but first my husband. As time passes I am more and more amazed by his strength, gentleness, and patience. When my grandfather died a few weeks ago, it was John's idea that I should probably go to back East to attend the funeral and spend time with my family. And even though it was a busy time at his job, John took several vacation days off to take care of the children. The airline ticket was not cheap either, so I know it was a bit of a sacrifice for him to buy my ticket to go. He never complained once about my being gone. And he said nothing negative about having to get up in the middle of the night with both babies for feedings. I really have never heard of too many men like my husband. I know they are out
there, but there really cannot be too many.
The other thing that has really drawn my attention was the grace and patience John showed this past weekend when most of the family was sick with a virus. I mean this was his two days off and here he is again taking care of everyone while I too am laid up in the bed sick. Wow, I think I might be too blessed if there is such a thing.

When my husband demonstrates these acts of kindness, I feel very loved by him. There have been some nights he has gotten up with the twins to feed them both because he knew I was tired and needed the rest. And what kind of man would want to have 11 children with his wife? That must be a man who loves her a lot!

So I count my blessings once again. No, we do not have a perfect marriage, nor a perfect life, but we are abundantly blessed in a very special way. God chose the perfect man for me. How he puts up with me at times I do not know. I guess it is just the patience and grace he has. Sometimes we get stuck in ruts in our relationships with our spouses. It is within those times we need to back up, press the gas, and get our attitude back on the path. Life is so short. We do not know how long we will have them. Here are just a few things I have been pondering on lately.

1. Choose to think positively about your spouse. We all have our weaknesses. However, do not let his or her flaws cause you to be blind sighted to his or her strengths.

2. Live each day as if it is your last with you spouse. You never know if today might be the last day.

3. Say less and hug more.

4. Your countenance mirrors your heart. Smile more at your spouse and always give eye contact in conversation.

5.Trash all negative words. For every negative word you feel tempted to speak, replace with 3positive statements.

6. Most importantly, find your significance in Christ. The more secure we are in God the more secure we are in our marriages.

7. Say I love you several times a day!

You know, I think I am bragging on my dear husband. But we need to do that! It is not that we are being prideful. We are recognizing the goodness of God in our lives and we need to testify of His blessings! Also, we need to let our loved ones know how much they really mean to us because one day it might be too late should we put it off. We do not want to have one regret!


Pam said...

This is very close to my heart. I too had a time where I grieved away from my husband and it caused us to grow a little bit apart. Lately I have been investing and rebuilding into him. God has been teaching me to love and forgive and let go of petty things daily.

I see you have some older boys, then a girl, then a mix of photos which I'm not sure of the order. Then twins. Do I see a second set of twin boys in there, or just very close in age? We have boy, girl, boy, boy, boy, boy, girl, boy, boy, girl, girl, girl and boy. How does your order go?

Ange said...

Thank you for sharing is good to know we all go through seasons together and that God uses those times to pull us closer to Him and to our husbands.It is also what knits the body of Christ together..the comfort in knowing we share similar challenges. We only have one set of twins, they are the youngest. The two boys you are speaking of are very close in size but are about 19 months apart. We have boy, boy, boy, girl, boy, boy, boy, girl,boy, girl,girl (twins)!!! How about have twins in your bunch?? blessings to you and thanks again for taking time to comment on my blog!!!

Robin said...

So worth reading and remembering!


Dana said...

Great stuff! I love you blog. Your cousin, Ashley Martin sent me to your site. She is a good friend & we serve together in our mom's group at church. She knew I could relate easily to you since I have 10 kids. Thanks for sharing your heart.

Karen said...

Thanks for sharing this post. We all need a reminder sometimes! Usually more often than not!

Your husband sounds amazing! My hubby is pretty amazing too! He has always been very helpful! He has done a lot of in the middle of the night feedings too! I struggled terribly with those, so I was so Blessed!

That was such a Blessing that he thought of you and let you go for your grandfather's funeral and visit with your family. He deserves a Husband of the Year Award for that!


Angie said...

I am also blessed with one of those rare Husbands. Other than Christ, He is the light of my life. He brings joy and peace to my heart. He is one who believes that showing the love of Christ, starts with him, through serving and sacrifice on his part. He makes it a joy and a blessing to be his wife.

Angie Sellers
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Ange said...

Thank you everyone for your encouraging and thoughtful comments! We are truly blessed!!